‘It was exhausting!’ – Singer Demi Lovato says she ‘got tired’ of using they/them pronouns due to ‘constantly having to educate people’ on her gender identity and had to return to she/her pronouns

Demi Lovato has revealed she ‘got tired’ of using they/them pronouns due to ‘constantly’ having to educate people on her gender identity.

The American singer, 30, came out as non-binary in May 2021 before revealing she had returned to she/her pronouns in August 2022.

In an interview with GQ Hype Spain, she said that she found it ‘exhausting’ having to explain her decision to become gender fluid.

She said: ‘I constantly had to educate people and explain why I identified with those pronouns. It was absolutely exhausting.

‘I just got tired. But for that very reason I know that it is important to continue spreading the word.

Lovato revealed she had struggled over using gender-assigned bathrooms and wanted more gender-neutral spaces for everyone.

She said: ‘I face this every day. For example, in public toilets. Having to access the women’s bathroom, even though I don’t completely identify with it.

‘Or it also happens when filling out forms, such as government documents or any other where you have to specify your gender. You only have two options, male and female, and I feel like none of that makes sense to me.’

She added she is ‘conditioned’ to select ‘woman’ due to limited options, and added: ‘I think this has to change. Hopefully with time there will be more options.’

In August 2022, Lovato, who is currently dating musician Jutes, opened up about re-adopting the pronouns during an appearance on Spout Podcast, revealing she decided to go by she/her as well after recently ‘feeling more feminine.’

‘I’ve actually adopted the pronouns of she/her again with me. So for me, I’m such a fluid person that I don’t really and I don’t find that I am… I felt like, especially last year, my energy was balanced and my masculine and feminine energy so that when I was faced with the choice of walking into a bathroom and it said, women and men, I didn’t feel like there was a bathroom for me because I didn’t feel necessarily like a woman,’ she explained.

‘I didn’t feel like a man. I just felt like a human. And that’s what they/them is about. For me, it’s just about like feeling human at your core.’

‘Recently I’ve been feeling more feminine, and so I’ve adopted she/her again. But I think what’s important is, like, nobody’s perfect. Everyone messes up pronouns at some point, and especially when people are learning, it’s just all about respect,’ she added.

On her Instagram bio, Demi states her pronouns as ‘they/them/she/her.’

Demi came out as non-binary and revealed they/them pronouns the previous year.

‘I want to make it clear I’m still learning and coming into myself – I don’t claim to be an expert or a spokesperson.’

Demi went onto urge fans to ‘keep living in your truths,’ and sent ‘so much love’ to those who are still struggling to come to terms with their identity.